Its Been a While...

My blog is about Marriage and How awkward it is. I Realize that it has been an awful long time since I've blogged and frankly, Its because My Husband and I are not together at the moment. Now for those of you who are thinking, "I knew they wouldn't last long." Shut up, and get your judgmental mind off my blog, its making it all slimy and gross smelling.

My husband is in the Military, as those who care about me know. Our One Year anniversary is coming up. July 2nd to be exact. Do I feel like a giddy little school girl? why yes. Yes I do. I also feel Old, as if my eggs are rotting out of my body, and Semi-Depressed that Its been a year since we've been married and I've only spent 7ish months of it with my husband.. Which Brings me to a subject near and dear to my heart:

Missing you. I see all these women Missing there husbands, Fine. I get it. But when he's gone for a couple hours and your on the verge of eating a whole tub of ice cream because You miss him so much? You have issues. See a therapist, and stop posting about it on facebook. No one cares.

I love my husband to the utmost of the word, But if there is one thing I've learned about life, its that Shit happens. Live with it, get over it, but whatever you do Don't wallow in it. There are too many days wasted on Sadness and Empty feelings. LOVE, love with everything you have. You never know what its like to miss something until its permanently gone. It humbles me so much to read stories of Women that have lost there husbands and I always think to myself  'I don't Care if Zac is Miles away, at least I have him. At least he's here."

My Husband is alive and well, So by golly every chance I get, I'm smothering him with my love. That's Life. And I choose to be happy:D

Marriage is Awkward, How to Cope with Coping.

I knew what I was signing up for when I became a Military Wife, Stinky ACU's, Feeding More then Just my husband, Moving all around the country, having to meet new people, and being alone a lot of the time. Naive as I was, I thought that the "Alone" Part would be the least of my worries. Wrong-O. Having your significant other ripped from you for periods of time, SUCKS. Hence the title of this Post, "How to Cope with Coping" because if you're a military Wife the last thing you want to do is cope. The first thing you want to do is get some super glue, put it all over your body and hug your husband...:D Now I know you were hoping for some advice for coping, and I have some for you but I'm going to do it in sort of a time line format. (enjoy)

Morning of:  If your husband Just left I bet your sitting in your room, on your bed with your favorite snack watching Movies that you always watched with him or just laying there crying. You will stay in this position for a couple days, Maybe even weeks, so get comfortable. Please remember to pack some tissues and DO NOT watch Dear John, Sons of Valor, or any other movie that has anything to do with the military... its not good for your health. This is the mourning phase, and its okay to be sad. Just remember, He's coming back.

Couple days/weeks out: Eventually you'll start feeling guilty (We're woman, its what we do) for just sitting there all this time. You'll get up and be shocked at how much you've let everything go in your house, and you! Lets face it, You haven't showered in days and haven't shaved in weeks, AND you're still wearing the last t-shirt your husband wore when he was with you. Now, Don't panic. Just hop your little Tookus into the shower and stay in there for as long as you like, You need it.

This is what I like to call the 'Distraction' Phase. You clean.. and clean.. and clean.. and then clean that spot again.. and then you sleep. Ladies, its not healthy. In order to feel better about yourself and to cope with your current situation, You need a healthy hobby. This can include, Running out your frustrations, Writing your hubby every single day (you should probably be doing this anyway) , Learning a new hobby, or going to school. There are plenty more to choose from. Be wise with your time, because after this you'll be moving so much, you wont know where the time went. If you have kids or a job its the PERFECT distraction. Just don't let your situation effect how you are with your job or your kids. If your kids are toddler age, they probably know that something is wrong and are very confused. Take this time to get to know them more and comfort them. You'll be surprised at how much it comforts you.

Half way mark: Everything Goes uphill from here. Your half way there and are no longer sulking in your own misery! You go girl:D Start a count down, it helps the days seem faster. You've made it this far already! You can almost feel his arms around you. Its okay to be excited:) You'll notice in the days to follow that your happier, have more energy and are shaving more. Take the next few weeks and workout. The last thing you want to do is feel fat, the first time he sees you because we all know he's going to be ripped... and that's intimidating.. and Sexy..

Just a couple more days to go: You're almost there! Go shopping, get a sexy dress and something even sexier to go underneath it. Shave the night before and the morning of the day your going to see him. (If you need tips on shaving see this post:http://kamillegavin.blogspot.com/2012/01/marriage-is-awkward-shaving.html) If you have kids, get a babysitter! You are going to want to spend his first day home Just with him.

He's home: Your heart is going to feel like its about to explode but Don't be so nervous, Don't fight, kiss him all that you can and remember that this time with him is precious. Don't wallow in the past and plan for a bright and happy future.

Lots of people ask me, Why do I do it? Because nights alone aren't permanent. Missing him reminds me that I'm lucky to have someone to miss because I am not afraid to make sacrifices for true love. It hurts like hell. But that Hurt is only temporary, For a lifetime of heaven. Pure and simple heaven.

We are the back bone of the military. We have to be the strongest, We have to be the Bravest, So our Men can do the same.

Remember, Marriage is Awkward and can be hard, Especially when your hubby is away, But you can do it. You can do anything.

Marriage is Awkward: Lust vs. Love

This has been weighing on my mind a lot recently And I am so sick of people falling for Douches. 

Women, WAKE UP! Men, GROW UP!

Those few Nice men, STOP FALLING FOR THE USERS! 

Women who take advantage of the nice men, STOP TURNING THEM INTO JERKS!

Lust vs. Love

If your man wants nothing more then to spend time with you, Its Love.

If your man would rather clean out his truck then be with you, its Lust.

If your man controls you, beats you, or uses you, Its Lust.

If your man cuddles you, kisses you, and wipes away your tears, Its Love.

Why is it that so many people are in Lust relationships rather then love? Why is it that our society puts Lust up on a pedestal and Love is just something we dream of?

Growing up I watched a lot of Disney Movies, Snow white is singing at a wishing well, The prince falls madly in love with her. In the end he awakens her with true loves kiss. Prince charming falls in love with Cinderella at a ball, Despite her fleeing the scene and being a peasant, he still marries her. Ariel Falls in love with prince Eric while he is on board his ship celebrating the day, the ship catches on fire and Ariel saves him from drowning. In the end, Eric saves Ariel from Ursula and they get married. The guy married another species! If That's not love, I don't know what is!

Notice that none of these Woman had to take there clothes off for the princes to fall in love with them. Now-a-days on T.V. every other channel is someone screwing someone else! Come on America, are you really that desensitized to sex that its okay for you to sleep with a different person every night? No wonder why Teenage pregnancy is on the rise. Your T.V. shows condone it! The truth is, Sex is glamorized, its something that everyone's doing. "It makes you feel good" but often times we act in the moment and don't realize the consequences of our actions before its to late. Random sex just makes you feel empty and alone. Try loving someone first.

There are many excuses for having random sex, the one that bothers me the most is: You NEED it... I am here to tell you, there is NO medical need for sex. Its mind over matter, and you have a hand don't you? Why go out, risk someone getting pregnant, risk contracting some sort of disease and come home feeling more empty and alone then you already did, all because you "need" sex? Break the mold, you are better then that. Don't lower your standards just because your body tells you too. Mind over matter.

Sex is a beautiful thing, and should be shared with someone that you Love. Not someone you just met. If you have any self respect you'll save yourself for when it really matters, so when you do end up having sex You feel the love and connection that comes with it.

Having sex with Multiple people makes you numb, Sleeping with one person that you love more then anything else? Its like nothing you've ever experienced before. Fireworks.
I waited for my husband, and I don't regret it one bit. You wont either. Even if you don't take my advice, at least use a condom. There are already enough children in the world without both parents. Think about their future.

Marriage is awkward when you have to explain to your spouse how many people you've slept with besides them.. But it doesn't have to be:) Find Love. Find love and Share it with them.