Get your Happiness on!

For your information, I haz my Huzband back (and yes I spelled that stupid-like on purpose) And for the sake of my blog being about sex, love, lust and what have you, I am getting laid again, So yes, I am happier. Thank you for your concern. Now onto More Pressing issues.

Last week on Facebook I was bored and my friend had a status that said, "Like for the truth" So naturally I liked it and she posted on my wall the truth about me. I thought this was a brilliant opportunity to tell the people I don't like off and confess to the people I do like Just why I am so generally hypnotized by there being... That's what I thought. Turns out, I am WAAAY to nice to tell anyone off, or tell them what I really think about them, well because, I don't have anything bad to say about anyone... (I'm such a Pussy...uh...Mom.. If your reading this... ignore that.) Then I got to thinking.. If I had to tell the truth about myself what would I say? As My hamster wheel started turning in my head I then realized that despite being positive to everyone else I am the only negative thing standing in the way of myself. 

With that being said, I think that most people can agree with me that the person that holds you back the most is yourself. So STOP. STOP telling yourself your ugly without makeup on. STOP telling yourself that your fat. STOP telling yourself you cant achieve your goals because you aren't good enough. STOP second guessing every decision you make! STOP Trying to be someone you are not.  You are a person... Just like the other 6 billion people in this world. You are different. No one is you. So stop trying to be them. And stop trying to fit into this mold of who the world says you should be.  

The truth is..

'We convince ourselves that life will be better after we find a boyfriend or girlfriend, get married, have a baby and then another. Then we're frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We'll certainly be happy when they're out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our lives will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.The truth is there's no better time to be happy then right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always come obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served or a debt to be paid. Then my life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.

Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with....and remember that time waits for no one.
So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you loose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you're off welfare, until the first or the fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you die, until you're born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is the journey, not a destination.'

Its Been a While...

My blog is about Marriage and How awkward it is. I Realize that it has been an awful long time since I've blogged and frankly, Its because My Husband and I are not together at the moment. Now for those of you who are thinking, "I knew they wouldn't last long." Shut up, and get your judgmental mind off my blog, its making it all slimy and gross smelling.

My husband is in the Military, as those who care about me know. Our One Year anniversary is coming up. July 2nd to be exact. Do I feel like a giddy little school girl? why yes. Yes I do. I also feel Old, as if my eggs are rotting out of my body, and Semi-Depressed that Its been a year since we've been married and I've only spent 7ish months of it with my husband.. Which Brings me to a subject near and dear to my heart:

Missing you. I see all these women Missing there husbands, Fine. I get it. But when he's gone for a couple hours and your on the verge of eating a whole tub of ice cream because You miss him so much? You have issues. See a therapist, and stop posting about it on facebook. No one cares.

I love my husband to the utmost of the word, But if there is one thing I've learned about life, its that Shit happens. Live with it, get over it, but whatever you do Don't wallow in it. There are too many days wasted on Sadness and Empty feelings. LOVE, love with everything you have. You never know what its like to miss something until its permanently gone. It humbles me so much to read stories of Women that have lost there husbands and I always think to myself  'I don't Care if Zac is Miles away, at least I have him. At least he's here."

My Husband is alive and well, So by golly every chance I get, I'm smothering him with my love. That's Life. And I choose to be happy:D

Marriage is Awkward, How to Cope with Coping.

I knew what I was signing up for when I became a Military Wife, Stinky ACU's, Feeding More then Just my husband, Moving all around the country, having to meet new people, and being alone a lot of the time. Naive as I was, I thought that the "Alone" Part would be the least of my worries. Wrong-O. Having your significant other ripped from you for periods of time, SUCKS. Hence the title of this Post, "How to Cope with Coping" because if you're a military Wife the last thing you want to do is cope. The first thing you want to do is get some super glue, put it all over your body and hug your husband...:D Now I know you were hoping for some advice for coping, and I have some for you but I'm going to do it in sort of a time line format. (enjoy)

Morning of:  If your husband Just left I bet your sitting in your room, on your bed with your favorite snack watching Movies that you always watched with him or just laying there crying. You will stay in this position for a couple days, Maybe even weeks, so get comfortable. Please remember to pack some tissues and DO NOT watch Dear John, Sons of Valor, or any other movie that has anything to do with the military... its not good for your health. This is the mourning phase, and its okay to be sad. Just remember, He's coming back.

Couple days/weeks out: Eventually you'll start feeling guilty (We're woman, its what we do) for just sitting there all this time. You'll get up and be shocked at how much you've let everything go in your house, and you! Lets face it, You haven't showered in days and haven't shaved in weeks, AND you're still wearing the last t-shirt your husband wore when he was with you. Now, Don't panic. Just hop your little Tookus into the shower and stay in there for as long as you like, You need it.

This is what I like to call the 'Distraction' Phase. You clean.. and clean.. and clean.. and then clean that spot again.. and then you sleep. Ladies, its not healthy. In order to feel better about yourself and to cope with your current situation, You need a healthy hobby. This can include, Running out your frustrations, Writing your hubby every single day (you should probably be doing this anyway) , Learning a new hobby, or going to school. There are plenty more to choose from. Be wise with your time, because after this you'll be moving so much, you wont know where the time went. If you have kids or a job its the PERFECT distraction. Just don't let your situation effect how you are with your job or your kids. If your kids are toddler age, they probably know that something is wrong and are very confused. Take this time to get to know them more and comfort them. You'll be surprised at how much it comforts you.

Half way mark: Everything Goes uphill from here. Your half way there and are no longer sulking in your own misery! You go girl:D Start a count down, it helps the days seem faster. You've made it this far already! You can almost feel his arms around you. Its okay to be excited:) You'll notice in the days to follow that your happier, have more energy and are shaving more. Take the next few weeks and workout. The last thing you want to do is feel fat, the first time he sees you because we all know he's going to be ripped... and that's intimidating.. and Sexy..

Just a couple more days to go: You're almost there! Go shopping, get a sexy dress and something even sexier to go underneath it. Shave the night before and the morning of the day your going to see him. (If you need tips on shaving see this post:http://kamillegavin.blogspot.com/2012/01/marriage-is-awkward-shaving.html) If you have kids, get a babysitter! You are going to want to spend his first day home Just with him.

He's home: Your heart is going to feel like its about to explode but Don't be so nervous, Don't fight, kiss him all that you can and remember that this time with him is precious. Don't wallow in the past and plan for a bright and happy future.

Lots of people ask me, Why do I do it? Because nights alone aren't permanent. Missing him reminds me that I'm lucky to have someone to miss because I am not afraid to make sacrifices for true love. It hurts like hell. But that Hurt is only temporary, For a lifetime of heaven. Pure and simple heaven.

We are the back bone of the military. We have to be the strongest, We have to be the Bravest, So our Men can do the same.

Remember, Marriage is Awkward and can be hard, Especially when your hubby is away, But you can do it. You can do anything.

Marriage is Awkward: Lust vs. Love

This has been weighing on my mind a lot recently And I am so sick of people falling for Douches. 

Women, WAKE UP! Men, GROW UP!

Those few Nice men, STOP FALLING FOR THE USERS! 

Women who take advantage of the nice men, STOP TURNING THEM INTO JERKS!

Lust vs. Love

If your man wants nothing more then to spend time with you, Its Love.

If your man would rather clean out his truck then be with you, its Lust.

If your man controls you, beats you, or uses you, Its Lust.

If your man cuddles you, kisses you, and wipes away your tears, Its Love.

Why is it that so many people are in Lust relationships rather then love? Why is it that our society puts Lust up on a pedestal and Love is just something we dream of?

Growing up I watched a lot of Disney Movies, Snow white is singing at a wishing well, The prince falls madly in love with her. In the end he awakens her with true loves kiss. Prince charming falls in love with Cinderella at a ball, Despite her fleeing the scene and being a peasant, he still marries her. Ariel Falls in love with prince Eric while he is on board his ship celebrating the day, the ship catches on fire and Ariel saves him from drowning. In the end, Eric saves Ariel from Ursula and they get married. The guy married another species! If That's not love, I don't know what is!

Notice that none of these Woman had to take there clothes off for the princes to fall in love with them. Now-a-days on T.V. every other channel is someone screwing someone else! Come on America, are you really that desensitized to sex that its okay for you to sleep with a different person every night? No wonder why Teenage pregnancy is on the rise. Your T.V. shows condone it! The truth is, Sex is glamorized, its something that everyone's doing. "It makes you feel good" but often times we act in the moment and don't realize the consequences of our actions before its to late. Random sex just makes you feel empty and alone. Try loving someone first.

There are many excuses for having random sex, the one that bothers me the most is: You NEED it... I am here to tell you, there is NO medical need for sex. Its mind over matter, and you have a hand don't you? Why go out, risk someone getting pregnant, risk contracting some sort of disease and come home feeling more empty and alone then you already did, all because you "need" sex? Break the mold, you are better then that. Don't lower your standards just because your body tells you too. Mind over matter.

Sex is a beautiful thing, and should be shared with someone that you Love. Not someone you just met. If you have any self respect you'll save yourself for when it really matters, so when you do end up having sex You feel the love and connection that comes with it.

Having sex with Multiple people makes you numb, Sleeping with one person that you love more then anything else? Its like nothing you've ever experienced before. Fireworks.
I waited for my husband, and I don't regret it one bit. You wont either. Even if you don't take my advice, at least use a condom. There are already enough children in the world without both parents. Think about their future.

Marriage is awkward when you have to explain to your spouse how many people you've slept with besides them.. But it doesn't have to be:) Find Love. Find love and Share it with them.

Marriage is awkward: Shaving

Hello Everyone:) I apologize for not writing in so long, I hope this post will make up for it:)

Now I don't know about you, but I despise shaving. It takes to long and comes back in two days anyway, so why even bother? That's what I said before I got married, Now I have a little more reason to shave. The Enticement of shaving is still the same for me.. Its annoying, But with shaving comes great and many things. (come on, you know my blog is about marriage:p)

In order to fully understand the effect shaving has on the opposite sex I did a little experiment. Yes, that's right I didn't shave for an entire week... And I LOVED IT! Here you go ladies and men, A list of the Advantages and disadvantages of not shaving:

Advantages: You're warmer, You don't have to continuously figure out what razors you've already used and which ones you haven't, Less time shaving in the shower and More time soaking (Oh, how I love to soak),  Your husband cuddles with you when you have your clothes on a lot more:p You don't those nasty little red bumps caused by ingrown hair. Your clothes don't stick to your skin from your stubble of hair growing in. Your lady part isn't itchy from irritated skin. You finally get to live your dream of being "Helga, the woman who can braid her armpit hair".. Okay so that last one was a joke, but you get my drift.

Disadvantages: Lets be honest here, You don't feel beautiful. You hide your legs and wear long sleeve shirts. When your hubby wants some loving, You beg to cuddle because your so embarrassed. You don't dress up to go out. Even when your sitting on the couch and your hubby rests his hand on your leg, you find a reason to move. You loose a point of self esteem.

Ladies, lets face it. We are a "Hair free" society. Men don't want to be with women who don't take care of themselves (unless there into furies.. but that's a whole other blog) Shaving is one of those things that you need to do to feel good about yourself and have others not be disgusted by you. Now with that said, here are some tips for those of us who hate to shave, but secretly want to like it more.

1. USE SHAVING GEL! I cannot even begin to tell you the difference in your skin when you switch from Regular soap to "Big girl" shaving gel. Its night and day. When you use shaving Gel you eliminate one step to the shaving process, The lotion afterward. Buy a shaving gel that has lotion already in it. It nourishes your skin and also helps prevent ingrown hair and those nasty little irritant bumps.

2. For the love of Women everywhere, get yourself a good razor. Men have 30 dollar razors just to shave their  faces. Don't you deserve a razor like that for all over your body? Most woman settle for the bulk razors that only cost 10 bucks for a package of 20. NO. If you use the disposable razors you are doing your skin more harm then good. Especially if you shave your lady area (I'll get to that part later) Disposable razors scratch your skin and can infect those scratches if used to many times. They're called disposable for a reason ladies! Try getting a three blade, flexible razor with lotion on the strip. Along with using shaving cream, this will keep your skin smooth and will prevent scratches and those red bumps I love ssoooo much >: l

3.SOAK! Believe it or not, Warm water helps relax your skin, making it so shaving is easier and cutting yourself is less likely. Everyone loves to relax in the shower its also known to de-stressify you.

If you do these things I promise it'll help you love your skin and even make shaving more tolerable. Now if your like me, and still looking for a way out of shaving I have two solutions for you.

1. WAAAAXXX.. Hurts like hell... But it lasts for weeks. Please don't go out and buy a kit at wal-mart thinking you know how to do it.. that's how accidents happen. Get one professionally done first and ASK QUESTIONS. In time you'll be able to do it to yourself, or even find a friend and have a waxing party:) but make sure you know what your doing first. There are already to many pictures of wax burns on google:)

2. Permanent Hair removal: Now I don't know to much about this, only that its pretty expensive... But if I had the means, I would totally get it done. Although most websites say that it depends on the person skin whether its effective or not and also it includes many treatments.. eh.. if its permanent and it stays that way... I'd still do it.

WOMEN: (if your a man, or one of my innocent family members, Please skip this section)

For those of you who do not shave your lady area (if you don't know what that is... please ask your mom or someone who can assist you) You should try it. Especially if your married and your husband hasn't ever experienced that, or its been a while. Shaving your "Lady" is known to increase the amount of sex you have and also increase the sensation of sex. Especially oral sex. If you ever want to spice it up one night, just do it. You wont regret it and your man will love the new look:) This look is commonly known as 'hard wood floors' This is what I prefer. Also, If you do the "Hard wood floor" look There is a new fad called "Vajazzle" its basically just sticking jewels on yourself. Now, I don't know what effect this has.. But I'll let you know when I find out;)

There are also other methods of spicing up your sex life by shaving. A shaving method called a 'landing strip' is also common among women. Its basically a line of hair on your "Lady" So if you don't want to take the plunge to hard wood floors, but want something different I would recommend this or a heart shape.
A heart shape is basically what it sounds like, a heart shaped patch on your "Lady" Now if your still not into the shaving of your "Lady" but have always wanted to try oral use the "underneath method" Do I really have to explain that one?

MEN:
For Pete sake, Trim a little would ya? You like Women to be well groomed, you should do the same. Now, that doesn't mean, Go bald yourself up, but we would like it if your forest was a little more tamed. Traveling through the jungle isn't a pleasure of mine, And women would pull less hairs if you would trim!! And we would get less hairs in our mouths! Not only does trimming make your package look bigger (Nice perk) it actually makes you feel the sensations better. (who would have thought?)

Ladies, do yourself a favor, Plan a day, Draw a nice hot bath, light some candles, get some exfoliating soap, AND TREAT YOURSELF!! You deserve to feel like a Goddess, Every woman is worth it and deserves to feel beautiful. Believe me, The next time your husband touches your skin, He wont want to take his hands off you.

Always remember, Marriage is awkward, But shaving doesn't have to be, if you do it right:)